My wife and I went down today to make his final arrangements. We used the same funeral home as for my mother last month. The body will be picked up at the hospital and brought to a crematorium. That's it. No notice in the paper as his crackhead friends might find out. No sense advertising this. His ashes went to a cousin.
After that, we stopped by the house to look for any important papers or anything else we might want. Neither of us had been upstairs in many years. I'm showing the following photos to not only show you the drug paraphernalia, but for you to see what drugs can do. These photos were taken before we moved anything. Research indicates he probably used crystal meth and if money was tight, crack cocaine. We also found odd household items near the glass tubes/pipes which are used when money is tight, such as dishwasher detergent and windex (From one website: Other additives found in cocaine have included chalk, caffeine, laundry detergent, baby laxatives, meat tenderizers and rat poison). From a website about this subject:
"In addition to the usual risks associated with cocaine use (constricted blood vessels; increased temperature, heart rate, and blood pressure; and risk of cardiac arrest and seizure), crack users may experience acute respiratory problems, including coughing, shortness of breath, and lung trauma and bleeding. Crack cocaine smoking also can cause aggressive and paranoid behavior."
That explains the coughing up blood (found a bowl of it in his living room) and heart trouble not to mention his strange behavior (remember the blog page where I wrote he wanted to know who I was texting while the hospice nurse was there?).
He was so wrapped up in drugs, he lived in a pig pen; animal (cat) waste all over the place. The stench was something else (thought it was cat urine at first, but just saw on a message board that meth smells like that). We saw drug pipes and butane tanks all over the place; we also saw lot's of 'coupons' for something and tons of very small plastic bags & envelopes. For those concerned about his dog and cat, we have found someone to take them.
By the way, at the bottom is something to show you that right up to the end, he was still trying to use my mom's credit. Many years ago, I placed a freeze with all the credit agencies to prevent that sort of activity.
You'll see lot's of mail all over the place.We took anything that wasn't 'junk' mail and brought it home; hundreds of letters, most NOT opened. I'll sort them by sender and sub-sort by date. By finding the oldest letters, maybe I'll get a better idea when this started. We have to wear latex gloves or work gloves and shoes (no flip flops) to enter the house.
I was able to log into my moms EZpass account and see the last two years of activity. His driving starts off slow (on her account anyway), picks up steam, then boy he went wild when he gained access to her savings account (summer of '09).
UPDATE July 2nd-it took us about nine to ten hours to go through the mail. Here is what we found:
-The vast majority of mail was from 2006 through present day.
-Almost none of it was opened.
-In our opinion, the (heavy/serious) drug use probably started in 2005.
-My mother had a suspended license because she had no auto insurance. Her car is not insured.
-My brother had a suspended license for a long time as his auto insurance expired.
-The house was in foreclosure in 2007.
-EZ pass violations show drug runs continued around my moms funeral and as recent as June 20th.
-Found a EZ pass report in my mothers name showing drug runs January 2008.
-Found a EZ pass report in his name showing a drug run January 2006.-There was a boatload of letters from law firms, especially around 2007 when he was hospitalized.
-Discovered he had two checking accounts with a insurance/financial institution. The transactions are similar to what we've seen at my mothers accounts (see below). Seems like he burned through about $25K during a two and a half year period. I think he transferred the money from his 401K. I no longer care about details, but this a lot of money in addition to his other funds.
-After my mom was put in the nursing home, I gave him the key to her safe of important papers. He obviously opened the safe. What I found today was his adoption documents with his birth name and other details. I don't think he ever saw it. I thought that was sad.
-From pay stubs, it seems he was grossing about $80K a year. He was assistant vice-president. Whatever he took home mostly went to drugs. Add his salary to what he stole and you'll see he spent a large amount on drugs.
-While it's no secret he was homosexual, I've regretfully discovered more than I care to know about. I believe his sexual activities contributed to his troubles and perhaps, indirectly, his death.
-Discovered he had a 3rd name he used. He used the name 'Adam' on this ID card I found:
-Here's an award from 1991. I think he could have gone far.
(Remember you can click to enlarge photos; use back button to return).
*****Here's the other account he had. Note he's making big withdrawals up to three days before he died. He told a friend he had to visit his cousin to give him some money. So the friend (unknowingly) drove him to his dealer. I think he bought five bags. We found two full bags, so he used three bags during this day and the next (then he went to hospital). *****
*****These first four photos where taken May 4, 2010. In the shock of actually going into his area, I didn't take new photos. You get the idea though.*****
*****These first four photos where taken May 4, 2010. In the shock of actually going into his area, I didn't take new photos. You get the idea though.*****
*****And now to the present day.*****
*****Above is part of the kitchen. You'll see the edge of the dog cage on the left. This was bad. The urine soaked all the way to the ceiling downstairs. The floor will need to be replaced, and I don't mean just the linoleum. Below is what I found (a week later) after I ripped up some linoleum that was under the cage. The reddish part under the chisel is the only part where I removed linoleum. The rest is the floor. Try to imagine the smell.*****
*****You'll see a red bucket on the table. It had blood in it; he probably coughed up into it. Below, notice the TV is on. That's how we found it.*****
*****Notice the Windex*****
*****For some reason, he took a photocopy of his old drivers license and taped it to his Bally's membership card. Haven't found an actual license.*****
****Found several of these glass tubes so far*****
*****On the table we found Easter dinner. It looked pretty bad.*****
*****I have no idea what drug is in the bag.*****
*****Above is one pile of baggies. Below is another pile (in a drawer next to his bed). When you add these with other piles we found plus all the ones just laying loose on the floor, there were hundreds. At $100 per baggie, it's easy to see he spent a lot of money. And why did he not throw them away?*****
*****Found hundreds of these coupons in bags. No idea what they're for.*****
*****Found in my moms car.*****
*****Found in his section of the house.*****
*****I destroyed all this stuff and threw it away (found more as we cleaned out the place). There are two full bags in the blue bag. We found (empty) little baggies all over the place (each baggie cost about $100). I flushed them. Below is a better view of the full bags.*****
*****OK, now he had a big parrot called a African Grey. In 2006 he said it died. You think he would have disposed of it. All that's left now is a bunch of features. We couldn't believe this, so we stirred it up a bit with a stick which explains why there's paper on top of it.*****
*****He had a cat. The poop was all over; you'll see it embedded in the carpet in the third photo down. It was also in the hall.*****
*****Looking at the bathroom above, it didn't appear he took a shower in recent history (in this bathroom anyway); no soap, towels, etc. Below; counterfeit money? YES! Believe it or not, these bills PASSED the marker test. Very high quality fakes. I shredded all.*****
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